Jul 12, 2015


“Quarter life crisis” is the new buzz issue sweeping our generation. But maybe we can look at this shifting period as a positive. Like any growing process, we’re being given an opportunity to shed a layer we’ve outgrown and come into a new level of who we are.


It’s like when you get to the next level of a video game, it gets a little more challenging, but you have the tools from the other levels you went through. You just have to apply them in a new way and get new tools as you keep going. (Actually, the more I live, the more life feels like a big game of Zelda…)

Here are a few practical tools that are helping me most to get through the Quarter Life level.


Once I missed a flight. I got all in a tizzy, freaking out that I was standing at the gate, with the plane just outside on the tarmac with the door closed. I was about to lay it on the woman at the counter when she nonchalantly told me I could board the next flight that was leaving in an hour.

Slow blink.

All the tension immediately deflated, and I skipped down the terminal to the neighboring gate like a happy puppy in springtime. The immediate contrast from my frustration, not moments before, made me realize: There are things I can control. There are things I can’t control. If it’s in my control, I’ll do whatever I can to adjust the circumstances. If I can’t control it, I’m surrendered to the circumstances until something changes. And chances are the changes will work out in a way I couldn’t have imagine.


It's in our nature.

Okay, so we know we’re supposed to work out and eat right. But how do we take care of our heart? Meditation is nothing more than taking time to train our mind to learn to chill with our heart. It’s the best friendship no one ever told us about.

In the few years I’ve been meditating, so much emotional tension has simply melted off.  I’ve found a level of balance and contentment I always thought was possible for robed monks sitting in a snowy mountain. Good news. I found mine in vintage clothes on a pillow from Cost Plus.

There’s tons of great systems out there. I like the Heartfulness practice for how simple and effective it is. Try something for 5 minutes every morning for a week, and slowly ease it into your life.


Just chillin'.
I used to socialize a lot more. And it was productive, to be sure. But once when I found myself surprisingly single, I was forced (gasp) go out alone to events. Or (gasp gasp) not go out and chill at home.

While at first the drama tried to peek out like, “erm, something is wrong!” I soon found joy and ease in taking time to do things I wanted to do just for me. Like learn to bake vegan treats or start that blog I always talked about doing, or just unwind (preferably away from a glowy box).


The joy of the daily rhythm.
I used to spend a lot of energy thinking my career needed to look a certain way. Then I remember someone saying a Buddhist saying: before enlightenment chop wood carry water; after enlightenment, chop wood carry water.

We are who we are, not what we do. And when we reach whatever pinnacle we imagine will satisfy us, we still have to do day-to-day life. And it’s kind of beautiful.


  1. Love your HEART! :) xo <3! Thank you for these great reminders and gentle suggestions! Much love always, Cous Cous.

  2. I stumbled upon your blogs par hasard ! It is wonderful !

    1. Thank you! I'm glad you're enjoying them :)